My Amazing Marriage

I can't begin to tell how blessed my marriage really is! It's awesome, and all I can do is praise God! It takes two devoted people and a lot of other things to make a marriage work, but I am more confident than I have ever been that it was God that crossed our paths not once, or twice, but three times! Then when I least expected it, God says "I know you are doing other things, but here is your purpose". When Robb and I got married, I was 3 months pregnant. A lot of people weighed in their opinions with "He just married her just to do the right thing" and "I give them 2 years". Robb and I had not known one another for very long before I became pregnant and so many people just thought they knew what was in our heart. In all actuality, we wanted to get married before I even found out I was pregnant, but we were waiting since our relationship was still new. On only our second date, I came home and told my mom that he was the man I was going to marry. I wasn't in love with him on the second date, but I did see myself falling in love with him and eventually marrying him, a feeling I have never had with anyone else. Once we were married, it did take a bit of adjustment and we got into small arguments here and there, but never had any big blowouts. Robb and I will be married 6 years in October and we have never had a "major fight" or even went to bed mad. We are very good communicators, we rarely just "shut down", but if we do it's not for long. We have an amazing amount of empathy for one another and want more than anything to see one another happy. Even when we do get into an argument, we can't stand the thought of the other one being mad, we just have to fix it. We rarely disagree, especially on major issues with our marriage or our family; We are a team all the way.
With all of that being said, it seems like we get along most of the time, and we do. But for me, always getting along is kind of boring. How can you ever make-up if you never disagree on anything of value? Just when I get really complacent with the way things are in our marriage, God throws a curve ball. We finally had a HUGE disagreement on something within our family! For once we could NOT talk productively without getting our feelings hurt. So in an attempt to resolve the issue, I forced my husband into making a decision that he was not ready to make. Once he made a decision and told me, of course I didn't like it, and I shut down to him. This went on for about 24 hours and finally I couldn't take it anymore, I had to get my feeling out. So after the kids went to bed last night we stayed up talking about our problem. It ended up being awesome, like God was giving us the words to say to one another. I came before my husband very humble realizing there were things I had done wrong and he in turn respected that and took the things I said into consideration. We still haven't come to a decision, and that's ok because we both got to say our peace. We want to always make one another happy, but on black and white issues, sometimes it is very difficult or even impossible to compromise and both people be happy. However, I do know that when we make a final decision, that everything will be okay. We love one another, we love God, and we want to do our best to make our marriage glorify Him. I am faithful to my husband and to God, because it was Him that sent me such a wonderful man in the first place.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh" ~ Genesis 2:24